Adoption is not a clear decision for many, and rightfully so. Many factors go into a birth mother’s decision to choose adoption for her child. Below are some public perceptions that birth parents are often expected to experience throughout the decision making process. As you will see, many of these expectations do not always hold to be true.
Common Concerns of Birth Parents
- Their birth children will resent them.
Many parents worry that adoption will leave their birth child with a sense of abandonment. While every adoption and child is different, a recent study found contrary evidence to the above concern. A survey in 2007 found that over 90% of adopted children ages 5 and older have positive feelings about their adoption (NSAP, 2007).
- They will never see their child again.
There are a range of adoption options available. This can range from closed to open adoptions. This may include having the birth parents receive updates and pictures of the child if both parties choose to do so. A birth mother has the option to choose which type of adoption is right for her.
- They will regret their decision.
Choosing to place a child for adoption is not an easy decision. However, parents often take comfort in knowing they made a responsible decision for their child and his or her future. With support and counseling, most birth mothers who choose adoption with the best interest of the child and themselves in mind, proceed with the process in a positive manner.
How KidsFirst Addresses These Concerns
- We help birth parents through every step. We want birth parents to be confident with the adoptive family you choose.
- We work with both parties to ensure that the best type of adoption is chosen in regards to the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents.
- KidsFirst staff is very involved in every stage of the process. We are here for both parties at all times. We are available through every step and remain available even after the adoption has been completed. This is a very important decision, and we are here to help.