Tuesday was a busy day, trying to reach out to a young mother who just placed her newborn for adoption. We know she needs help but her phone is old and it is hard to connect. Young women can get support up to 6 weeks after delivery. We can pay their rent, bills, help with groceries, or gift cards so that they have the ability to get on their feet and hopefully move on with life. Things are not always easy and most young women have a hard time dealing with life difficulties as a result of their circumstances or where they grew up. Our job is to try to help, not to judge, and to provide resources.
You may feel alone and scared now that you found out you're pregnant, and it wasn't planned. Maybe you're facing CPS, and you fear that you will lose your child to the foster care system...
Adoption IS An Option!
- You can choose from a variety of families who have completed thorough home studies, and who are approved to provide a safe and loving home to a child.
- You can request to receive updates and pictures from the adoptive family that you've chosen. You can also build a relationship with the adoptive family to ensure that your child will receive the love and attention that they absolutely deserve.
- Adoptions can potentially occur between family members or close friends.
- You can receive counseling and other resources throughout your pregnancy as well as up to six weeks after delivery through the adoption process. Financial support is also available to help you get back on your feet and transition after delivery.
- You will have the power to choose where your child ends up, instead of losing them to the foster care system which can be full of uncertainty.
KidsFirst Adoption Services is here to listen to your concerns, help you determine your child's future, and walk you through the entire process.
Call our office anytime at: (317) 843-2300 or you can call/text: (317) 518-3032
Consider the following while making this very difficult, permanent, and life changing decisions about both your future and your child's. You are the adult and ultimately the decision maker for your child. You are the one who is able to create the opportunities that your child deserves. We are here to answer any questions you may have!
Place Your Child For Adoption:
- If you feel that it is not the right time emotionally, physically, and financially to parent your child. Or, you may want to be a parent in the future, just not right now.
- If your living conditions and emotional state prohibits you from caring for a child and the safety or security of your child is jeopardized.
- If you are facing a long-term prison sentence and do not feel that your immediate family is the right place for your child.
- If you are battling additional issues, health problems, or homelessness and it is difficult to take care of yourself and your child.
- If you are involved with CPS and you fear that you will lose your child to the foster care system, but you want to be apart of the decision regarding where your children will be raised.
Parent Your Child:
- When you are experiencing difficulties but are ready and willing to use resources to help you provide a safe and secure environment for your child.
- If you are in an argument with the child's father, but have the resources and capacity to provide a good, stable life for your child.
- If you can rely on your support system to care for your child, despite facing potential legal or health issues.
- If you feel you have the strength and willingness to parent your child, despite the difficulties you are facing, and you have the resources to provide the life that your child deserves.
Last week we met with a young woman who is experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. “It’s just been a struggle. I don’t want to put both my daughters through that.” She has a full time job, is parenting a toddler, and has little support from friends and family.
She came to KidsFirst because she is considering adoption. “I want a family who will love her as much as I do.”
We met with her and the father of the baby the same day she called us. She was able to look at portfolio books of families waiting to adopt and she chose the family for her daughter! Two days later, she was able to meet the adoptive family. It's a very difficult decision, one that is never taken lightly by any birth mother. She cried on the phone and when we met. Our hearts ache for her because her heart is hurting. But ultimately, she feels she is making the decision to place her daughter for adoption because her daughter deserves a better life, one that she is not able to provide at this point in her life. She feels confident in her decision to place her daughter with this family because she feels that they will love her unconditionally and will provide her with a safe environment and the opportunities she could ever want or need.
To learn more about KidsFirst, call us 317-843-2300 or 317-518-3032 (24 hours). We know this is a difficult time and we are here to help YOU make the best decision for you.
We work with birth mothers and fathers who are considering adoption for their child for a number of different reasons. We have worked with women who are:
Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy
Scared because they are in an abusive relationship
Pregnant due to rape
Having difficulty parenting a child
Struggling financially and unable to provide for their child
Suffering from drug or alcohol addiction
Threatened with DCS/CPS involvement and having their children removed to foster care
Whatever the reason, one thing is always true…the birth mothers want to give their child a good life and a stable future. Their decision to place their child for adoption is made out of love.
It is important to us for women to understand that they are NOT alone. We are here to provide support and to educate them about their options so that they can make the best choice for themselves and their child.
To learn more about KidsFirst, call us at 317-843-2300 or 317-518-3032 (24 hours).
Yes! At KidsFirst, we also work with families who are hoping to adopt. They would like to adopt for a number of different reasons- some are unable to have children, some want to help a child in need, and some feel called to adoption. But all of the families have something in common, they are excited and ready to grow their family through adoption!
Our adoptive families come from all walks of life. They are active in their communities, financially secure, and have supportive friends and families. Some are active in their church, some live outside of Indiana, and some have children. All of our families have been through a home study process. This means that we have been to their home and they have completed a number of background checks. We have checked their financial records, reference letters were received, and they have been interviewed by a social worker.
All of our adoptive families have made portfolio books. These books describe their family, their values, and give you a better understanding of who they are. You can look through these books and choose the family you want to place your child with.
What is important to you in looking for an adoptive family for your child? When we meet you, we want to know your thoughts. And we want to find a family that you feel comfortable with, that you can build a relationship with, if you choose to. To learn more about KidsFirst, call us 317-843-2300 or 317-518-3032 (24 hours).
Yes. When a child is placed for adoption through KidsFirst, the biological family and adoptive family discuss what will happen after the adoption. Will there be visits? Will there be pictures or letters, maybe phone calls? We come up with an agreement that works for everyone involved and we stick to that agreement. Most often, the adoptive parents provide pictures and letters about the child several times a year.
If you are considering adoption but are worried about never hearing how your child is doing, don’t be. We can provide you with updates and an agreement that feels right to you. You can call our office ANYTIME and we will let you know how your child is doing. Many birth parents continue to keep in touch with us, years after the adoption.
Please call KidsFirst and we can walk you through the process. We know this is a difficult time and we are here to help you make the best decision for you.
Adoption is not a clear decision for many, and rightfully so. Many factors go into a birth mother’s decision to choose adoption for her child. Below are some public perceptions that birth parents are often expected to experience throughout the decision making process. As you will see, many of these expectations do not always hold to be true.
Common Concerns of Birth Parents
- Their birth children will resent them.
Many parents worry that adoption will leave their birth child with a sense of abandonment. While every adoption and child is different, a recent study found contrary evidence to the above concern. A survey in 2007 found that over 90% of adopted children ages 5 and older have positive feelings about their adoption (NSAP, 2007).
- They will never see their child again.
There are a range of adoption options available. This can range from closed to open adoptions. This may include having the birth parents receive updates and pictures of the child if both parties choose to do so. A birth mother has the option to choose which type of adoption is right for her.
- They will regret their decision.
Choosing to place a child for adoption is not an easy decision. However, parents often take comfort in knowing they made a responsible decision for their child and his or her future. With support and counseling, most birth mothers who choose adoption with the best interest of the child and themselves in mind, proceed with the process in a positive manner.
How KidsFirst Addresses These Concerns
- We help birth parents through every step. We want birth parents to be confident with the adoptive family you choose.
- We work with both parties to ensure that the best type of adoption is chosen in regards to the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents.
- KidsFirst staff is very involved in every stage of the process. We are here for both parties at all times. We are available through every step and remain available even after the adoption has been completed. This is a very important decision, and we are here to help.