Pregnant with No Support? You Are Not Alone
Finding out about an unintended pregnancy can feel overwhelming. Finding out you may have to face it without the support you expected can make everything feel even harder.
You may not be able to count on the baby’s father, or you may be worried about money. You may not know where you will live or how you will get to medical appointments. You may be wondering how you can possibly care for a baby on your own.
You do not have to figure everything out today.
KidsFirst is here to listen, answer your questions, and help you understand your options without judgment. Calling us does not mean you have to choose adoption or make an adoption plan.
Your conversation is private. You can call or text us 24/7 at 317-518-3032.
What Kind of Help Do You Need Right Now?
Maybe you know exactly what you need. Maybe you only know that you need help. Start there.
Tell us what is happening and what you are worried about. We will listen. You do not need to have the right words or know what you want to do about your pregnancy before you call.
KidsFirst can help connect you with financial and community resources. We can provide transportation to medical appointments, connect you with mental health resources, and help you navigate insurance and apply for coverage.
If you have questions about adoption, we can answer those too.
Every woman’s situation is different. You may need help with one immediate problem, or you may be trying to make a much bigger decision about what happens after your baby is born. We will start with where you are right now.
You can call even if you are not sure what you need. You can ask anything.
Pregnant with No Support from the Father? You Still Have Options
Going through pregnancy without support from the baby’s father can be hard. You may have expected him to help financially, go to appointments, prepare for the baby, or simply be there for you.
If he is not involved, you do not have to handle everything by yourself.
KidsFirst can help you look for resources and talk through your options. If you are thinking about adoption, you can also ask us what the biological father’s involvement may mean for the adoption process.
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What If I’m Pregnant and Struggling Financially?
Money may be one of the biggest things keeping you awake at night.
How will you pay for groceries? What about medical care? Rent? Transportation? What happens when the baby arrives?
Being pregnant and struggling financially does not mean that you have to choose adoption. Programs such as WIC, SNAP, Medicaid, 211, and other community resources may be able to help with food, healthcare, housing, and other needs. KidsFirst can also help connect you with resources based on your situation.
However, if you are considering adoption, Indiana law allows certain financial assistance. KidsFirst’s current guidance states that up to $4,000 in support may be available for certain expenses, with assistance available through six weeks after delivery.
We can explain what assistance may be available to you and help you find other resources in your community.
What Are My Pregnancy Options?
If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy without much support, you may be hearing a lot of opinions about what you should do.
The decision is yours.
Your options may include parenting, adoption, or abortion. Take time to get accurate information and understand what each choice could mean for you.
If you want to parent but are worried that you do not have enough support, there may be programs and community resources that can help.
If you want to learn about adoption, KidsFirst can answer your questions. You do not have to choose adoption just because you call us. You can learn what an adoption plan would look like and decide whether it is something you want to consider.
If you are considering abortion, talk with a licensed medical provider about the options and services available where you live.
An unplanned pregnancy can make your future feel uncertain. But you still have a voice about what happens next.
Considering Adoption? You Decide What Happens Next
Can I Stay in Contact with My Child After Adoption?
Yes. If you choose adoption, you can talk with KidsFirst about the kind of relationship you hope to have after placement.
An open adoption may include ongoing contact such as pictures, updates, or visits. A semi-open adoption generally provides some communication while maintaining more privacy. A closed adoption does not include ongoing contact.
There is no single arrangement that is right for everyone.
KidsFirst offers open, semi-open, and closed adoption options. We work with you and the potential adoptive family to create a plan with clear expectations about future contact.
Tell us what you hope for. We will listen.
What If I’m Close to Delivery or Already Had My Baby?
It is not too late to get help.
Maybe your due date is days away and you do not know what you are going to do. Maybe you are already at the hospital. Or perhaps you brought your baby home and have realized that parenting is not something you can manage right now.
You can still call KidsFirst.
If you decide you want to create an adoption plan after delivery, KidsFirst may be able to put a plan together quickly. Our current guidance states that an adoption plan can sometimes be established within an hour after delivery, although the timing of placement can depend on hospital policies and your individual circumstances.
We also help parents considering adoption for children beyond the newborn stage.
If you need help now, you do not have to wait until tomorrow.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
I’m pregnant and have no support. Can KidsFirst help me?
Yes. Start by telling us what is going on. KidsFirst can listen, answer your questions, help connect you with resources, and explain adoption if you want to learn about it. You do not need to decide on adoption before contacting us.
Do I have to decide on adoption before I contact KidsFirst?
No. You can call or text simply because you have questions. Talking with KidsFirst does not commit you to adoption. If you are facing an unplanned pregnancy and do not know what you want to do, you are still welcome to contact us.
What if I have no support from the baby’s father?
You can still reach out for help. We can talk about your needs and help you find resources. If you are considering adoption, we can also help you understand how the biological father’s rights and involvement apply to your individual situation.
Can I get financial help while I’m pregnant?
Financial and community resources may be available. If you are considering adoption, Indiana law also permits certain adoption-related financial assistance. KidsFirst can talk with you about what may apply to your situation and connect you with other resources.
Can I choose the family that adopts my baby?
Yes. If you choose adoption, you can review KidsFirst’s waiting-family profiles and select the family you feel is right for your child. Our waiting families undergo background checks and home studies before they are approved.
Can I have an open adoption?
Yes. KidsFirst offers open, semi-open, and closed adoption options. Depending on the plan you create, contact after placement may include pictures, updates, calls, or visits.
Is it too late to choose adoption if I already gave birth?
No. You can contact KidsFirst after your baby is born. We also work with biological parents considering adoption for children beyond infancy, including children through school age.
Is talking to KidsFirst confidential?
KidsFirst treats communication with you as private. You can call or text our Birth Mother Hotline 24 hours a day, seven days a week.
Get Help Today. No Pressure. Just Support.
You may know exactly what you want. You may have no idea what comes next.
Either way, you can talk to us.
Tell us what is happening. Ask the questions you have been afraid to ask. We will listen without judgment and help you understand your options.
If you want to explore adoption, we can explain what happens next. If you are not sure, that is okay too.
Ask anything. No pressure. Just support.
Call or Text KidsFirst 24/7: 317-518-3032