Frequently Asked Questions
Contact UsFrequently Asked Questions about Adoption
Adoption Plan, Adoption Services, Pregnancy Resources & Support
We are an organization which helps pregnant or parenting women or families make an adoption plan for their child/children when they feel it is in their and their child’s best interest.
For Birth Mothers
I am ready to make an adoption plan for my child. What do I do next?
We will do everything we can to be a support for you. You can text or call us anytime at (317) 518-3032 to schedule a time to meat. We are ready to listen and understand what your hopes are for your child. You can bring a family or friend with you to our meeting to make you feel comfortable if you would like.
I am worried I can’t parent my child & they may end up in foster care
Please know you have options! As a parent you have control, choice, and
ability to call us and choose from fully approved adoptive parents. Even if
DCS has already come, you can call our adoption agency, meet with pre-
approved adoptive parents, and decide if they are the right fit for your child.
It is important to contact the adoption agency when DCS first appears and to
get their business card. If you wait long, it might be too late for a private
adoption plan.
decision for both your child and you. It will be very hard, but you need to
weigh what decision is best for your child’s and year future. Please don’t
forget that whatever decision you make, it is your duty as a parent to ensure
your child has the life you want them to have.
option when parents are not in the position to parent.
birth certificate and social security card if possible, and your ID. We will
always ask about your child’s unique personality medical needs, routine,
allergies, etc.
difficult time.
You can reach us at (317) 518-3032
What is the adoption process step-by-step?
First, click HERE to schedule a call with us or request more information. We will answer your questions and arrange a confidential meeting. You will then choose your best parenting match from the profiles of pre-approved families. You may meet with the families if you wish. You will be provided with emotional and financial support throughout the rest of your pregnancy. When we meet, ongoing contact and the frequency of the updates after birth will be discussed. We’re always there to help you out. At the hospital, you decide the details of your delivery and hospital stay. Official paperwork isn’t signed until at least 24-48 hours after delivery.
How do I know adoptive family is good?
study approved which means we run FBI and other clearances, spend hours
discussing their life, parenting skills, medicals, financials, community
resources, etc.
exams, adoption training discuss ability to parent a child of different
ethnicity, etc.
We encourage biological parents to be part of the meeting with adoptive
parents so that they can ask questions themselves.
situations, we assure you that we take it very seriously and place your child
with the family who is prepared to provide love, stability, respect,
understanding, good education and list goes on and on.
adjusting well.
What help can be provided if I don't have a safe place to stay?
We reach out to community resources to see what options are available for you. We first try and understand what your needs and preferences are so we can assist you in the greatest capacity possible to make sure that you are safe and well taken care of.
What financial support is available throughout the adoption process if I am placing my child?
Indiana law allows up to $4000 support money up to 6 weeks after delivery. If you believe adoption is the best option for your baby and you, we can provide help with rent, utilities, phone bill, etc according to what is allowed by Indiana Law.
Do I have to identify the biological father?
When we first meet with you, we will have you complete a form that allows for a few options. You can choose to identify the father, not identify the father, or state that you do not know who the birth father is. If you do identify him, we are obligated to reach out to him and request his consent for the adoption. If the father is not identified, the burden is solely on him to take action to assert his rights as the possible father of the child. If he doesn’t assert his rights, his consent is no longer required.
Can I receive updates after placement?
Definitely, if that is your preference. Biological parents have a choice of:
Open: updates and visits
Semi-open: pictures and updates about the child’s development,
interests, personality
Close: we respect your privacy unless you chose otherwise
Prior to the adoption placement, we discuss the wishes of biological parents
and openness of adoptive parents in detail. We facilitate a plan so that both
parties agree and have a schedule of updates or visits if they choose to have
them. We take this part of work very seriously and follow up for years, if
families want us to be involved.
In the past we had calls from biological parents who chose a closed adoption
plan but then wanted an update 5 years later. We usually are able to reach
out to the adoptive family and provide an update.
We love what we do and stay committed to our families for many years.
Can I have a visitation schedule after placement?
parents. We believe in honest, straightforward communication and
appreciate the openness of the biological family regarding their preferences.
up with a plan that makes sense to both sides. It is very important that both
biological and adoptive families are comfortable with the plan and committed
to it.
Can I have a private adoption plan?
Biological families have different options and preferences when it comes to making a decision about the type of adoption they are comfortable with. Some families prefer their privacy and opt for a private adoption plan. Families reserve their right to contact our agency and ask for updates if they want them later.parents to develop a schedule of updates on how the child is doing throughout the child’s life.
What are some common reasons women decide to pursue adoption?
position to parent currently. They want to put their child in a position to
experience stability and great opportunity for the rest of their life. There are
many life circumstances that cause women to decide adoption. We are here
to listen and support the decision that is right for you.
various life situations. Sometimes we feel that the harder it is, the more we
bond. These are such hard decisions and we have so much respect for the
women and men we work with.
For Mothers Considering Adoption
Will I be able to know how the child is doing as they grow up? Would it be possible for me to see them sometimes?
We make sure that adoptive parents send us pictures and updates and we get them to you. It is very important to us that you sleep well and have peace in your heart that your child is doing well. It is up to you whether you want to have scheduled visits once or twice a year, pictures/ updates, or choose a closed adoption where you can call us if you want updates.
Will my child dislike me later because I placed them for adoption?
The truth is 98% of children who have good, stable, and loving homes are thankful that their biological family created this opportunity for them in life. They are thankful that you made such a selfless decision for them. Many of them want to meet their biological family when they become young adults.
What are open, semi-open, and closed adoptions?
– Open: There is a schedule of visitations once or twice a year between biological and adoptive parents.
– Semi-open: Pictures and updates, conference calls between bio and adoptive parents.
– Closed: Biological mother prefers privacy. She wants to reserve her right to contact our agency and ask for updates if she wants them later.
Do I have to identify the biological father?
Adoption Law in Indiana gives this choice to you. If you want to choose an adoptive plan for your child, you are not obligated to notify the biological father. If the father of the child insists that he wants to parent, as a mother, you can still make an adoption plan to secure safety and stability for the child. If you have more detailed questions about the rights of the father, please call us and we will provide information..
What are the consequences of children being raised in a home unable to meet their needs?
Children need structure, love, consistency, good nutrition, and predictability. When basic needs are not met, when children are not cared for properly, live in deprivation, and lack permanency it creates problems with:
Behaviors Self-regulation Eating habits Ability to live a successful independent life Establishing friendships Obtain a proper education Building relationships in life Legal Issues
The older the child gets, the hard it is for them to overcome these issues!
At what age can the child be place for adoption?
Children can be placed for adoption from newborn to school age. It is the responsibility of a parent to make sure their child is safe and has opportunities for a good and productive life.
What will my family and friends think about me if I place the child?
parent has an obligation to provide a stable, secure life for their child full of
love, understanding, and acceptance. Whether you are providing that
yourself, or putting your child in a situation where they will have it, you fulfill
your duty to them.
plan is an incredibly selfless act. It takes a lot of love and commitment to do
it, if you are sure, it is in the best interest of your child long term.
For Families Hoping to Adopt
What are the steps of the adoption process?
If you are interested in becoming an adoptive parent with KidsFirst, please call our office and we can discuss your hopes and wishes. The adoption process starts with your home study. A home study is an overview of your life and includes in-depth interviews, a home visit and the completion of a set of documents. The documents include criminal background checks, a medical report, financial information, references, and adoption education. Our Social Workers are here to walk you through every step of the process with care. If you already have a fully approved home study we will accept it.
After your home study you will create a scrapbook showing your family and life, which we will review and provide suggestions for. We will show your book to potential birth mothers. When a birth mother chooses your book, we will coordinate a meeting so that you both can get share your hopes and dreams for the child. KidsFirst will guide you and be a part of multiple meetings with the biological family. You will not feel alone in this process.
As social workers we also have extensive experience and understanding of risks factors during pregnancy and the effects of prenatal care and trauma to child’s development. We continuously educate, support, and refer families to top specialist in the country to ensure families are fully equipped an understand risks. We are honest and straightforward and believe that people come to us because of our expertise, experience, and advocacy work for children and families. Biological parents can sign official paperwork 24-48 hours after delivery. KidsFirst will be here each step of the way to make sure you are prepared and supported.
Are there age restrictions for domestic adoption?
This agency suggests a 25-48 year difference between the age of the child and the adoptive parent.
What questions should I ask while interviewing an adoption agency/attorney?
- Do they provide home study, post placement, and legal services as well? What is their style of working with adoptive parents?
- What is their style of working with biological mothers?
- What is their involvement with both biological and adoptive parents like preparation for birth, doctors’ appointments, and regular checkups?
- Who handles the management of financial support for biological families and how is it done?
- What kind of education work is done for both biological and adoptive families?
- Do you they stay in touch and manage communication between biological and adoptive parents?
- Can adoptive parents contact them later regarding connecting with biological parents about medical, behavioral issues, etc.?
- Do they place infants and older children as well?
- Does the agency have knowledge about developmental and prenatal issues?
- Do they understand and education about consequences of alcohol or other substance exposure?
- What is their referral source?
- Do they help with exchanging updates and provide an option for visitations at the office?
- What is the fee structure?
What are open, semi-open, and closed adoptions?
– Open: There is a schedule of visitations once or twice a year between biological and adoptive parents.
– Semi-open: Pictures and updates, conference calls between bio and adoptive parents.
– Closed: Biological mother prefers privacy. She wants to reserve her right to contact our agency and ask for updates if she wants them later.
What percentage of adoptions do not take place?
We estimate that only 50% of initial adoption plans go through. That is an honest and straightforward observation from the years we have been doing this work. This is not just from our own placements but from other professionals and agencies we have worked with through our 21 years as an agency. This can happen for a number of reasons that we will discuss with you as you begin to approach the adoption process.
Do you help us put together our profile books?
Review of your profile book is part of our process. We do not charge for this service but work very closely with this family to highlight their uniqueness and readiness to welcome the child into their life. We have years of experience in this field and we share very honest and straightforward opinion regarding pictures, language used to optimize success in each family.
How quickly can I adopt?
As an agency we provide services starting from home study done in a timely manner to legal finalization. Assuming your homestudy is already completed we guide you to put together profile books and present them to biological families. We have famlies who were chosen within weeks of complete of their homestudy and families who have waited over a year. Please know that we don’t just count the time when you are matched, but until the child is placed in your care. Biological families can back out in the last minute which can influence the time of child placement with you as a family.
Are our chances of adopting lower if we are already parenting other children?
Not necessarily. We work with so many different situations and each biological family has certain hopes for their unborn child or a child they are already parenting. We try to concentration on things which are unique to you to make it more clear to biological families and give them a better picture of what environment their child will be raised and grow up in.
What are the steps of the adoption process?
If you are interested in becoming an adoptive parent with KidsFirst, please call our office and we can discuss your hopes and wishes. The adoption process starts with your home study. A home study is an overview of your life and includes in-depth interviews, a home visit and the completion of a set of documents. The documents include criminal background checks, a medical report, financial information, references, and adoption education. Our Social Workers are here to walk you through every step of the process with care. If you already have a fully approved home study we will accept it.
After your home study you will create a scrapbook showing your family and life, which we will review and provide suggestions for. We will show your book to potential birth mothers. When a birth mother chooses your book, we will coordinate a meeting so that you both can get share your hopes and dreams for the child. KidsFirst will guide you and be a part of multiple meetings with the biological family. You will not feel alone in this process.
As social workers we also have extensive experience and understanding of risks factors during pregnancy and the effects of prenatal care and trauma to child’s development. We continuously educate, support, and refer families to top specialist in the country to ensure families are fully equipped an understand risks. We are honest and straightforward and believe that people come to us because of our expertise, experience, and advocacy work for children and families. Biological parents can sign official paperwork 24-48 hours after delivery. KidsFirst will be here each step of the way to make sure you are prepared and supported.
Are there age restrictions for domestic adoption?
This agency suggests a 25-48 year difference between the age of the child and the adoptive parent.
What questions should I ask while interviewing an adoption agency/attorney?
- Do they provide home study, post placement, and legal services as well? What is their style of working with adoptive parents?
- What is their style of working with biological mothers?
- What is their involvement with both biological and adoptive parents like preparation for birth, doctors’ appointments, and regular checkups?
- Who handles the management of financial support for biological families and how is it done?
- What kind of education work is done for both biological and adoptive families?
- Do you they stay in touch and manage communication between biological and adoptive parents?
- Can adoptive parents contact them later regarding connecting with biological parents about medical, behavioral issues, etc.?
- Do they place infants and older children as well?
- Does the agency have knowledge about developmental and prenatal issues?
- Do they understand and education about consequences of alcohol or other substance exposure?
- What is their referral source?
- Do they help with exchanging updates and provide an option for visitations at the office?
- What is the fee structure?
What are open, semi-open, and closed adoptions?
– Open: There is a schedule of visitations once or twice a year between biological and adoptive parents.
– Semi-open: Pictures and updates, conference calls between bio and adoptive parents.
– Closed: Biological mother prefers privacy. She wants to reserve her right to contact our agency and ask for updates if she wants them later.
What percentage of adoptions do not take place?
We estimate that only 50% of initial adoption plans go through. That is an honest and straightforward observation from the years we have been doing this work. This is not just from our own placements but from other professionals and agencies we have worked with through our 21 years as an agency. This can happen for a number of reasons that we will discuss with you as you begin to approach the adoption process.
Do you help us put together our profile books?
Review of your profile book is part of our process. We do not charge for this service but work very closely with this family to highlight their uniqueness and readiness to welcome the child into their life. We have years of experience in this field and we share very honest and straightforward opinion regarding pictures, language used to optimize success in each family.
How quickly can I adopt?
As an agency we provide services starting from home study done in a timely manner to legal finalization. Assuming your homestudy is already completed we guide you to put together profile books and present them to biological families. We have famlies who were chosen within weeks of complete of their homestudy and families who have waited over a year. Please know that we don’t just count the time when you are matched, but until the child is placed in your care. Biological families can back out in the last minute which can influence the time of child placement with you as a family.
Are our chances of adopting lower if we are already parenting other children?
Not necessarily. We work with so many different situations and each biological family has certain hopes for their unborn child or a child they are already parenting. We try to concentration on things which are unique to you to make it more clear to biological families and give them a better picture of what environment their child will be raised and grow up in.